We are in the throes of a global (f-ing) pandemic. Stress, anxiety, depression and worries are at an all time max for most of us.
Now pause and imagine having a NEWBORN during this time. For those, like myself, who are blessed to be out of the newborn phase and have kids big enough to brush their own teeth and dress themselves and even fix their own meals/snacks, the postpartum time period is likely a very hazy memory by this time.
But if you had any type of postpartum depression, anxiety or blues, then just even considering having a newborn right now may stir some feelings of PTSD.
To you mamas who ARE in the newborn period right now, I think all we can say is my goodness mama, we are sorry.
I was talking with a patient yesterday who was in for a postpartum incision check. This is a time when feelings for all of us are mixed. I’ve frankly enjoyed some aspects of this time. As much as I love watching my kids do activities, I’ve really loved also eating meals at home, not running around like crazy after work and school from one activity to the next, and the general slow pace of family time. I have missed – but not missed – the hot nights at the baseball fields, the dance practices, the end of school crazy time.
So I imagine that new moms are feeling conflicted as well. It’s nice to know that you’re not missing out on much while you nurse a newborn all night and day. But also, the anxiety that a simple trip to Target to stock up on needed supplies may bring is amplified by a million right now.
We know so little about this damn virus, and what it may mean for our babies, our kids, ourselves or our parents. It’s really scary to think about the exposure that simple errands may bring. Simple errands that used to be a lifeline back to “normal life.” The pandemic has changed those from an opportunity to get out and interact with adult humans who speak back to you to an opportunity to contract a virus.
WAH WAH right?
So it’s ok to have mixed feelings, especially if you are postpartum and have ALL OF THE FEELINGS ALL OF THE TIME right now at baseline.
- If you feel like your anxiety or depression is affecting your everyday actions.
- If you feel like hurting yourself.
- If you are scared beyond what is reasonable (yes I realize we don’t know what reasonable fear may be at this time).
- If you don’t even know and just need to vent, or cry, or commiserate, we are here.
We can see you virtually. We can see you in person.
Please reach out if you’re unsure.
This is why we do what we do. To help in these times and always.